Open thread: Same-sex marriage and your life
May 12th, 2012
01:26 AM ET

Open thread: Same-sex marriage and your life

This week, President Obama announced his personal support for same-sex marriage. The endorsement came a day after North Carolina voters passed a constitutional amendment that bans gay marriage in their state.

So, we want to know - what does Obama's announcement mean to you? Will it make any difference in your life?

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  1. Andrew

    This issue is a distraction. I have no problem with gay and lesbian equal rights and marriage. But as an issue, I believe that the fact that Obama merely comes out in support of it through words means little to nothing. He has used words to appease before. The reality is that this is acting as a distraction from the real issue of the economy and the path our country is taking. 16 Trillion in debt, weak job market, massive government intervention at every facet of our economy. These are the real issues. The obama campaign is putting out a media smokescreen. While I think he is right on the gay and lesbian issue, he is markedly wrong on the economy and I can't sell out our country for that.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:28 am | Report abuse |
  2. zach

    There are more shellfish eating christians than gays wanting to get married. Stop using the bible to justify your bigotry.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:30 am | Report abuse |
  3. Jimmy

    Same gender marriage has not social value as tradtionaly set. There are no reproductive issues other than what technology allows. This is, then, an issue between two people and the benfits bestowed on traditional hetero gender couples expected to produce and rasie children. Technology alters that. Technology creates an abnormal situation for us all in many ways and that must be dealt with. Loving one another has no requirements of us and no gifts bestowed upon us by governments. Religion is more interested in the natural order and the concept that God made a man and a woman to reproduce in a natural way. While even hetero couples are very likely not to be naturalists in the traditional sense, that is their issue to deal with and they can do that with marriage. As fas a civil contract law and societal benefits, this is to be determined by society and the community. Fairness, bigotry, hate- simple name calling debate tactics have nothing to add to the argument and only muddy the waters. I believe we should argue the merits of all benefits bestowed upon couples who enter into civil contract and let all couples have a word and then allow communities to have their say. Civil Unions and religious marriage are not the same. As long as we keep them the same we will not determine what law should protect and what it should not. I personally support traditional marriage within religious context, I do not support marriage for anyone outside religious context, I support civil unins & contract outsdie religion and I do not support civil union and contract within religion. I think we need to diferentiate and define the different relationships and seek resolutin for each without regard to the other and we need to stop thinking of ourselves and labels and think of the larger group and what is best for us at this time and place. And stop with the name calling better than thou crap of childishness- no one gets anywhere with that. Time to grow up.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:30 am | Report abuse |
    • DragonSlayer Lights Your Fire


      Neither does traditional anymore sorry to say. You lose!

      May 13, 2012 at 9:22 am | Report abuse |
  4. Frank

    What all this boils down to is one word and that is "Marriage". It's this one word that is causing the problem. By now everybody knows that the Gay & Lesbian issue is not going to go away but is here to stay and the closets are being opened wider. There is absolutely no problem with this except the use of the word Marriage. Marriage has been associated with the unionizing of a Man and a Woman for thousands of years. A lot of people are finding it all but impossible to associate this word with the joining of two men or two women. Why not just add another word, ie; Union, Partner, Mate, or any other appropriate word THAT WILL BE IDENTIFIED AS THE SAME AS MARRIAGE and will be so stated in the Statutes. Personally, I don't care what you call it but just stop this childish crap and quite living the Stone Age.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:30 am | Report abuse |
  5. Steve

    My problem is where does this end. If the new standard is equality for all, even though it goes against convention and history, What about a man marrying 10 women? Or a man who is 50 marrying his 18 year old daughter? You open up Pandora's box and this will lead to many unintended consequences.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:30 am | Report abuse |
    • DragonSlayer Lights Your Fire

      @ steve

      I say if you can afford them, have them. and as for the daughter issue, inbreeding happened for a long time long long ago. Science proved it's not good for the gene pool. Pandora's box was just in the closet already opened. We are just bringing it out and dusting it off. The argument of "How far will we go" is hogwash. The point we should be making is should we even be using the old-world views of marriage in this modern society. Law already dictates incest (thank goodness...we don't need more handicaps amongst us) we already have laws about bestiality. So what's left? Can't hump a fir tree? Sure why not at that to the law books.

      that fact is the "LAW" is to be separate from Religious Beliefs. Moral Values change from person to person based on their personal beliefs. If you don't want to participate then don't discriminate those who do.

      May 13, 2012 at 9:32 am | Report abuse |
  6. Magical Life

    The twofold question was this: what do you think of it, and how does it impact your life. You're against it. Ok. You're against civil rights and equality for ALL US citizens.

    How does it impact YOUR life? IT DOESN'T!
    It doesn't impact anyone's life unless they're the wones being discriminated against!

    How about this? Ban ALL marriages. After all, by your argument, if it makes a minority feel good about marriage, it goes to follow that the majority feel good about marriage....

    It impacts your life NOT AT ALL, Antigay. It just offends your delicate sensibilities. Unless they're doing the deed on your front lawn, which ain;t are not affected.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:31 am | Report abuse |
    • Tim Scott

      As you can see I will not hide behind some cute little name,like magic fairy dust. I agree whole heartly with antigay. You liberal types make me sick. It is not natural,which is why God created man and woman. They do not deserve the same benefits as married hetero couples,they should not be allowed to adopt they will only create confussion for the child. This sick living SOB we have in office is helping sell this great country down the river and you all are to blind dumb or stupid to realize it. You live in a walter mitty world we are not all equal their are haves and have nots,not everybody makes the team. Your forefathers as well as mine fought and died for this country founded on beliefs in the bible.

      May 12, 2012 at 1:56 pm | Report abuse |
    • stephen

      I have how you people spout hate in God's name.

      May 13, 2012 at 8:45 am | Report abuse |
    • chris

      Answer me this; why do you need some state or church to say you are married? Why is it so important to you? Should not your love for each other be enough. Why make society approve of your lifestyle? To many your choice is immoral, but you want our applause for your sin. Psalms 12:8

      May 12, 2012 at 10:24 pm | Report abuse |
  7. Kapn Kevin

    It should be the decision of individual states. It is a legal matter, not a morale one. Banning is not the answer, nor is legistating morality. This argument is handily wielded for personal freedoms in matters of a women's body & kids' rights. Let's let the republic govern as it was meant to. The federal govt has the responsibilty to provide national defense & to oversee state-to-state business. The states' responsibility should ensure the citizens' pursuit of anything that promotes the common good – work, business, family, carrying for their circle of infuence. Women's rights advocates should keep their religion outta politics. Over-educated bigoted adults should keep their impractical ideals outta forming the character of the next generation. Politics & religion shouldn't mix, so follow your own playbook plz. Thanks you.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:31 am | Report abuse |

    Live & let live. People should stay out of other people's bedroom. The REPUBLICANS themselves say GOD created us all n his eye.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:34 am | Report abuse |
  9. Magical Life

    How about is is against the law,, but if you want to poretend to be a dog, go ahead. Since you have no argument as to how this affects you personally, I think people will be wise enough to know that you are a troll.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:36 am | Report abuse |
  10. Tom

    So called Christians who don't believe gays should be able to marry are on the wrong side of history. No matter what they think their Bible says, "God is love."

    May 12, 2012 at 10:36 am | Report abuse |
  11. RapidOne

    It doesn't affect you unless you're gay, or you hate gays. It's simple as that.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:38 am | Report abuse |
  12. Tom

    Rick Santorum is a warped human being.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:38 am | Report abuse |
  13. Gtritt

    Goodness. Lots of hate on both sides here. I support ppl's right to make choices for themselves. Unfortunately, that also applies to the right to be prejudiced against others. "A time to love, a time to hate..."
    But discrimination against others should be an illegal action in a free country. And the reason that the anti-gay marriage laws keep getting passed is NOT because it is what most Americans believe. It is because conservative churches are very organized and have gotten out the vote so well. Real Freedom-loving Americans: Get off your tails and get out there and VOTE.

    May 12, 2012 at 10:41 am | Report abuse |
  14. Hey, why not?

    Up with polygamy! Down with all the polygamist-haters! Marriage should be between one man and many women! Yeah!

    May 12, 2012 at 10:41 am | Report abuse |
  15. Nelson

    There is only one simple question to be asked and answered, as the Iowa Supreme COurt so succinctly put it in their decision striking down marriage inequality in that state.
    "Are all Americans equal under the law? Or are they not?"

    Why is this not simple? Because of religious nonsense, that's why – and teh stranglehold it has on so many Bubbas in this country

    May 12, 2012 at 10:41 am | Report abuse |
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