March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. sam russell

    oh geez–are we still talking about these gay issues? i mean enough is enough-its genetics–NOT CHOICE. i am more concerned about the hate and separation being spread amongst these kids than anything else!

    March 16, 2010 at 2:39 am | Report abuse |
    • whybs

      Don't blame the CC. It's this couple who decided to stick their head in fairytale! All religions are one big pile of dung.

      June 23, 2010 at 8:18 am | Report abuse |
  2. Anna

    This really irritates me. I was raised in the Catholic church that you love as Jesus loved. I do not understand why it is okay for the ArchDiocese to shelter and protect their homosexual priests (& worse), but bannish two children for who their parents are. That is NOT what Jesus would do!!

    March 16, 2010 at 2:39 am | Report abuse |
    • Moe

      I too was raised as a Catholic and received my sacraments as I was taught to do. As I got older and identified mainly with woman and as a lesbian it really disappointed me that not only was I raised by a religion that is so hypocritical but so judgmental. I will live by this one rule of thumb dont judge if your hands are not fully clean and accept others no matter what.

      June 22, 2010 at 2:47 pm | Report abuse |
    • whybs

      More & more are pulling their heads out of this pile-of-dung fairytale.

      June 23, 2010 at 8:24 am | Report abuse |
  3. James Highsmith

    The Archbishop does a poor job of integrating all of Jesus' teachings. One can always pick and choose the parts of religious doctrine one wants. Does this decision reflect the overarching teaching of Jesus to love one another? I think not, and in this the Archbishop fails in his obligations to God. His obligations to the Church are not more important than this.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:40 am | Report abuse |
  4. Jake Says

    The Catholic church only approves of same sex relationships when it involves a priest and a child, god forbid it occur between consenting adults.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:40 am | Report abuse |
  5. Emily

    This is REDICULOUS! Come on now! I am not going to get into all of the details and jist of it. Let children go to school, let ADULTS live their lives as compassionate human beings. Just remember..it was less than 50 yrs ago African Americans had to deal with teh same thing.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:41 am | Report abuse |
  6. Dan

    I'm not Catholic, but it seems to me that if they don't like the teachings of the Catholic Church, then they should not be members. Sorry, but religion is not like a Democratic-Republic. The laity do not dictate policy.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:42 am | Report abuse |
  7. Edwin

    If the church also denied children of unmarried and divorced couples, this ruling might be believable.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:42 am | Report abuse |
  8. jk32

    fact of the matter is catholic schools are private and can do whatever they want for whatever reason they want.

    while i'm personally against same sex marriages i do feel that expelling a child because their parents are gay seems a little overboard. But then again I don't think any child should be raised by a gay couple. Seems to me that having a father and a mother is the best possible way for a child to be raised.

    now i'm not trying to being offensive, at all. just my opinion. And I really have no problem with homosexuals.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:43 am | Report abuse |
  9. Will

    this is coming from the church that lets their leaders get away touching people.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:45 am | Report abuse |
  10. Michael

    What is the first admendment of the consitution of the United sStates? How is this allowed to happen ? We are destroyind the very fiber of our Country. To be this adjust to a child is ruining the exceptance of freedom, and justice. How stupid this school is to keep a child from learning. This will further make being gay more excepted in the long run. This action causes rebellion against the church by young people. Doesn't the church have enough problems without picking on children one way or the other?

    March 16, 2010 at 2:51 am | Report abuse |
  11. Beatrice wright

    Thiskind of thing always leaves me shaking my head. Why do these women care about the Catholic church, which obviously doesn't care about them? Why do they bother? It 's all so meaningless anyway.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:54 am | Report abuse |
  12. Eric

    Since the Archbishop's response not only said they believe that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman, but also said that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong – why are they not also expelling the students at the school who live with heterosexual partners but aren't married? They also say that marriage is a sacred covenant – fine but why aren't they blocking the children of the divorcees from enrolling?

    This seems very judgemental because it is – they do not apply their beliefs across the board – only as they choose.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:55 am | Report abuse |
  13. buddy

    The god only love people who give meney to churchs.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:56 am | Report abuse |
  14. Eric

    Since the Archbishop's response not only said they believe that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman, but also said that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong – why are they not also expelling the students at the school whose parents live with heterosexual partners but aren't married? They also say that marriage is a sacred covenant – fine but why aren't they blocking the children of the divorcees from enrolling?

    This seems very judgemental because it is – they do not apply their beliefs across the board – only as they choose.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:56 am | Report abuse |
  15. Christine

    That still doesn't explain why the children are being punished.

    March 16, 2010 at 2:57 am | Report abuse |
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