March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Sherri

    By the Church's stated reasoning, I doubt that ANY of the children in their school would be allowed in. But it's interesting to note that they chose to use the child of a lesbian couple to make their point, not the the child of parents who conceived out of wedlock or the child of a single parent. Hmmmm.....very interesting indeed.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:43 am | Report abuse |
  2. Thomas

    My heart goes out to the ladies and their children. They truly are normal people – children of God – trying to live normal lives. To the Archdiocese of Denver: Shame on you. Shame. Shame. Shame. There are plenty of caring churches out there who will respond to your needs. Try the local UCC, ELCA or Episcopal congregations. Really.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:43 am | Report abuse |
  3. Jim

    OK, wait. The rationale for expelling the kids from school is that "sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong." So is the school expelling the children of every straight couple divorced and remarried outside the Church? (beause the Church sees such marriages as invalid). Or of every straight couple that is living together outside of marriage? Or of straight parents who are having sex outside of marriage, either as single people or in affairs? Of course not. Obviously, the school's decision has nothing to do with sex outside of marriage. It has everything to do with a vicious kind of homophobia that will effectively (though not juridically) excommunicate or paint a scarlet letter on children to punish the parents. Though now we're supposed to believe that the Church is committed to the safet and well being of children. I suppose the children's option for remaining in Catholic school is to leave their parents, suing for adoption by a straight couple?

    March 16, 2010 at 7:44 am | Report abuse |
  4. bill

    Glad I'm not a Catholic. Jesus never said anything against gays, but he did speak against divorce. Why isn't there a ban on heteorsexual divorce? This school can do what it wants, but they don't reflect MY Jesus.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:44 am | Report abuse |
  5. Judith Linn

    So will they also expel those children of divorced parents? Childen of those who commit adultery?Children of those who vote for the Democratic Party? Children of those who do not oppose the death penalty? Where does it end?

    March 16, 2010 at 7:46 am | Report abuse |
  6. Scott in NH

    Okay, this might sound a bit offensive, but.... If they could switch to Protestant, the religion is 99% the same, except they will be accepted, not rejected.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:49 am | Report abuse |
  7. Rachel

    This is ludicrous. I suppose then, based on his logic, the Archbishop expels the children of adulterers as well?

    Punishing the innocent. What a wonderful way to bring people closer to God.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:54 am | Report abuse |
  8. Michael

    Will the school also expel or not allow children who has a parent who has engaged in an extramarital affair? Remember the commandment, Thou shall not covet thy neighbors wife.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:55 am | Report abuse |
  9. Konstantine

    According to the bible, Jesus Christ also taught that slaves were just dandy and having a submissive wife is peachy keen.
    I would like to know how many divorced people's children attend this or other Catholic schools, and why their children are not being kicked out... According to the church's reasoning, these children should also be expelled because their parents are divorced.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:56 am | Report abuse |
  10. J M McDermott


    So, in theory, any child of unmarried parents, or any child conceived out of wedlock by an unmarried parent can be expelled.


    No. Actually, that's wrong. Wrong wrong wrong.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:56 am | Report abuse |
  11. Kirk

    I would hope that if they take such a hardline stand against homosexuality that they would also make sure that none of the other kids parents are "sinning." Jesus taught a lot of things and if kids can be kept from enrolling solely because their parents have "sinned," the school needs to be consistent. That means "anyone who has looked at a woman lustfully" (Mt.5) or that has not "loved their enemies" (Lk 6) should not be able to send their kids to this school. And even beyond that, Jesus doesn't even mention homosexuality... Maybe the school should have just been honest and said they don't like gay people instead of trying to make it about their faith.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:58 am | Report abuse |
  12. Lisa Rich

    So both sides are citing what Jesus taught or what Jesus would have done.

    While I don't agree with the church's stand on homosexuality, it seems there is a failure here of the parents to really HEAR the church's stand on this. The church isn't demure about its wrong-headed stance on homosexuality.

    Belonging to this church is a choice and that choice, in the case of these parents or anyone who is offended by the church stand on homosexuality, is very difficult to understand.

    Seems the parents would want to belong to a church who shares their own beliefs about Jesus?

    March 16, 2010 at 7:58 am | Report abuse |
  13. Jen

    I still cannot figure out why anyone, gay or otherwise would want to be part of the most hypocritical religion of them all. No thanks, their idea of a judgmental God lays the groundwork for guilt, lack of self worth, and intolerance.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:59 am | Report abuse |
  14. Anthony D

    I see. They expell kids who want to get an education because their parents are lesbians, but they keep their priests accused of raping and molesting children. This is the same church that excommunicated en masse all Communisits, but never excommunicated Adolf Hitler, who was raised a Catholic and whose greatest support came from Nazis in the Catholic state of Barvaria. My question is why anyone would bother to remain a member of an institution rife with such massive hypocrisy.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:59 am | Report abuse |
  15. Cindy

    Contrary to the claim "...they are the teachings of Jesus Christ," Jesus did NOT speak out against homosexuality. Paul did, but NOT Christ. Jesus said nothing about sexual orientation ever. The only people he did criticize were the Scribes and Pharisees (for their hypocrisy and oppression of others).

    I'm straight by the way.

    March 16, 2010 at 8:00 am | Report abuse |
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