March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Joan

    What a load of nonsence, they say sexual intimacy outside marriage is wrong. What about the hundreds of boys (probably thousands) who are involved with Catholic priests behind closed doors. The church makes no firm effort to sort out their own problems. I am 68 and have known about this practice since I was a young girl when my friend, an alter boy, who used in this way.
    This practice in the Catholic church is more repulsive that two people who love and respect each bringing up children to be decent, kind, loving and open minded. God created the world but through time man created and twisted the teachings of God and law to suit himself or whatever religous sect he belonged to.

    March 16, 2010 at 8:16 am | Report abuse |
  2. DJ

    I agree with the teachings of the Church (I am Catholic) BUT I can't see why these innocent children are being punished and neglected by the Church. Would the Church deny access to the children of a murderer? The children are fortunate to have two loving parents who want to bring them up properly and, this time the Church is wrong!

    March 16, 2010 at 8:22 am | Report abuse |
  3. teopy

    Christ spoke, "bring all the children unto Me." He did not say, 'bring all the children unto Me who were born of married parents of different genders.'

    This church accepted these children through Baptism, therefore, these children as Catholics have the same privileges as other children baptized as Catholics and this includes attending a Catholic school and receiving the sacraments. The couple should seek a lawsuit for religious discrimination on behalf of their children including repayment of the tithing, tuition and any other money this couple has given to this church.

    March 16, 2010 at 8:34 am | Report abuse |
  4. Bob B

    The child is already being punished...not having a father and mother by CHOICE.

    March 16, 2010 at 9:26 am | Report abuse |
  5. Mark Hing


    Just leave the church, it's that simple. I left this crazy cult after 20 years of brain-washing non-sense. And remember 2 things:

    1. Science will fly us to the moon
    2. Religion will fly us into buildings

    March 16, 2010 at 10:32 am | Report abuse |
  6. Shari M.

    The church opposes sexual relations between unmarried people, but opposes gay marriage. Isn't this a contradiction?

    March 16, 2010 at 10:36 am | Report abuse |
  7. Barbara

    He who is without sin cast the first stone. Give these people a break. The parents want the best for their child and are raising them in the Catholic. God bless them.

    March 16, 2010 at 11:17 am | Report abuse |
  8. James

    The comment about comparing sexual relations between unmarried people and same sex marriages is like comparing apples and oranges. Sexual relations is looked upon as sin but same sex marriages is looked as sin as well as a abomination to GOD.

    While my views on the Catholic Church are not supportive they do have a say to who they let into thier private instituion. But by no means should people turn away from the Church because of incidents like this. Its that thinking alone that causes many to stray away from GOD.

    March 16, 2010 at 11:34 am | Report abuse |
  9. Dally

    I don't understand why so many people need to be so filled with hate. If you don't support gay marriage, or gay rights, or things that you don't believe them, then that is your decision. But that is no reason for you to impede on someone elses life, or say who they can and can't love. Not only is the prosecution of the child in this matter completely unfair, but the closed-mindedness that sadly still exists today is only going to make things in the future worse. I mean, Conservatives and Liberals have such differing beliefs but are able to be friends based on tolerance and acceptance. Its not such an impossible concept. People who hate so strongly are the ones with the real problems. Hate weighs you down, love lifts you up. 🙂

    March 16, 2010 at 11:47 am | Report abuse |
  10. Steve

    Where does it in the article state that the parents were attending the school? Oh wait they weren't. So why is the child being punished and in Catholic schools anymore they don't force you to be catholic anyway. These parents made a promise to raise their kid Catholic and the Catholic church can't except that. So what about all the parents that divorce or the parents that have committed adultery are you going to kick their kids out too?

    March 16, 2010 at 12:15 pm | Report abuse |
  11. marc c

    The key eloement sn that the church expects a cooperative partnership between parents and its schools in instilling a Catholic education and faith. The lesbian relationship means the school will not get the support at home that parents obligate themselves to provide when they enroll–namesly support for teaching on marriage and sexuality. Catholic schools may also need need to be more scutinizing about divorced and remarried parents enrolling children.

    March 16, 2010 at 12:27 pm | Report abuse |
  12. Mike

    Which Christian faith says that children are rejected because of their parents sins?

    Even for the parents: Jesus made it clear he came for the poor, the disabled, the sinners, and the spiritually sick. Is the Church now saying like the pharisee "God, I thank you that I am not like other men—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector."?

    March 16, 2010 at 12:30 pm | Report abuse |
  13. Wes

    t is time to find another church more accepting. The church turned its back on the child, so be it. time for the parents to go elsewhere.

    March 16, 2010 at 9:55 pm | Report abuse |
  14. Mark Hing

    "I mean, Conservatives and Liberals have such differing beliefs but are able to be friends based on tolerance and acceptance. Its not such an impossible concept. People who hate so strongly are the ones with the real problems. Hate weighs you down, love lifts you up."


    Right, in a perfect world, but that's not the world we live in..

    The hate is coming from the conservative right.

    March 16, 2010 at 9:57 pm | Report abuse |
  15. Joe Schmoe

    Why do they still want to be Catholic? I belong to an accepting faith; even my Rabbi is gay! We are prohibited from evangelizing, so I won't suggest they convert to my faith. However, if they want to be Christians, they can find a church that is accepting. Governor McGreevey was thrown out of the Catholic Church and found a more welcoming church.

    June 21, 2010 at 8:14 pm | Report abuse |
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