March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Christer Friberg

    I think it's very wrong by lesbians to raise children in an abnormal surrounding and they should not demand the society to accept their life style. The behavior is irresponsible, although I sympathise with their sexual orientation, which they should keep to themselves.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:04 am | Report abuse |
    • Laney

      Care to explain how it is irresponsible? If you mention "values" and "it just is" you don't have an argument.

      June 23, 2010 at 8:26 am | Report abuse |
  2. John

    Time to find somewhere more accepting. To punish children because the parents don't align with the churches faith shows how the churches true colors.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:07 am | Report abuse |
  3. bobby

    These women are the truest examples of Christianity that I have seen in a long time. Compassionate, understanding, loving, and committed. Who cares if you're gay or straight? As long as you raise respectable children in a loving home, that's enough in my opinion. How many families are so perfect and pious, gay or straight? The number seems to be dwindling these days. The fact the church shunned THEIR CHILD is despicable and I just pray the leaders of this diocese see the error in their decision soon.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:08 am | Report abuse |
  4. Christer Friberg

    The Catholic Church will face some real credibility issues in the future, saying one thing and doing another. While homosexuals are apparently allowed to sodomise small boys, they cannot accept fine little children who happen to have lesbian parents. Is this not what we call hypocrisy?

    March 16, 2010 at 3:08 am | Report abuse |
  5. Tony in Phoneix

    Will the school expel children whose parents are divorced? What about parents who are found to be committing adultery?

    These are also not allowed by the Catholic church. Let the witch hunt begin!

    March 16, 2010 at 3:12 am | Report abuse |
  6. Steve Fielder

    At this point in history, the Catholic Church is in no position to be passing judgement on matters of sexual preference. Instead of persecuting innocent children due to the so-called "sins" of their parents, perhaps they should throughly screen the backgrounds of all the adults working in Catholic schools.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:15 am | Report abuse |
  7. Jason

    So, are they kicking out every child that has a single parent or parent that has been divorced? If not, then they are hypocrits.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:15 am | Report abuse |
  8. Bryan

    1) The children are not the parents. They should not be denied their education and exposure to the church because of anything the parents do that conflicts with the church's teachings.

    2) The church should embrace those it considers to be sinners, not push them away.

    Everything about this decision is wrong. The teachings of Jesus Christ are to improve yourself before you judge others. How does embracing "sinners" conflict with what Jesus taught in Matthew? Was Jesus not the architect of the Catholic church? Did he not embrace, love, and advise thieves, murderers, prostitutes, corrupt government officials, and sinners of every stripe?

    I can't recall a single instance in the Bible where Jesus pushed someone away from the church who sought his help, love, or advice.

    As a Catholic, I absolutely disagree with the churches decision in this case. It's shameful.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:22 am | Report abuse |
  9. Joe Mortz

    Why does the church isolate children becuase of the parents? That is mean. These men are the same ones who are condemning comprehensive health care for all americans. Our country's founding fathers were spiritual but not zelots.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:24 am | Report abuse |
  10. Elena

    I am sorry to say this but it makes sense that the school needs to maintain its principles intact. I think the Archdiocese of Denver gave a very good answer. While Jesus surely does love the lesbian couple and their children, the teachings of Christ are still that sexual intimacy and the rights of marriage can only occur between men and women. It wouldn't make sense to go against these principles.
    I don't think homosexual relations are natural. I am sure that most of these incidences can be treated with hormone therapy or psychological support. Men and women are supposed to mate, this is testified by their reproductive organs.
    It's not only religion, it's also logic.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:28 am | Report abuse |
  11. Free Thinker

    Ridiculous. Their faith is the reason behind bigotry, racism, discrimination and many more human right violation through out the history.

    Get real.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:28 am | Report abuse |
  12. Danny

    What a statement from the church. Ban the kids for their parents, that really is the best move, at least they will not be molested by any priests. I am so ashamed to be catholic.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:28 am | Report abuse |
  13. Tosha

    Do they allow children born out of wedlock to attend?

    March 16, 2010 at 3:31 am | Report abuse |
  14. notoj

    Sounds like a good story from the Church about Marriagee, but it has nothing to do with the kids. Looks like a good case of discrimination.

    March 16, 2010 at 3:39 am | Report abuse |
  15. The truth

    This gross injustice cannot be allowed to stand.

    We must do away with backwards institutions like this if we are ever to achieve real social justice and equality for homosexuals! This sort of hate cannot be tolerated!

    Down with the Church! DOWN with HATE!

    March 16, 2010 at 3:42 am | Report abuse |
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