March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Murray Mitchell

    I respect these parents view, and their right to their faith.

    My own feeling, and being a victim of abuse, I don't think our governments do enough to make sre these institutions follow the law of the land. The abuse, especially in the religious orders has been going on so long, that all are tainted. It is time we the people took a stand and make sure that any organization does not discriminate against any person for whatever reason.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:33 am | Report abuse |
  2. Adam

    What a joke! The archbishop's explanation of why homosexuality is wrong stil has nothing to do with the child!

    When a priest molests a child they get transferred or if they're too old they aren't allowed to accept confession, but if somebody's legal guardian has premarital sexual relations then they are not allowed in catholic schools.

    Do they not allow children who are adopted by single adults in their schools either?

    What about children who's parents get divorced? What if the child is against the divorce, but obviously has no control over it? Is the church going to turn their backs on them too?

    I am AMAZED that these women still profess their commitment to their faith. Why would they want to be apart of something that says they are living in constant sin and disallows their child to be in their schools?

    Catholic church members are no different then the rest of the population. There are good and bad people who are members, but those in power are so out of touch its disgusting.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:37 am | Report abuse |
  3. Chuck Eddy

    "The teachings of Jesus Christ" ??? In the bible at least, Jesus never mentions homosexuality, nor defines marriage, nor uses such phrases as "sacramental covenant".

    March 16, 2010 at 4:38 am | Report abuse |
  4. Windy Vincent From Canada

    Am speachless,God has become God of hate.I don't accept or beleive in lesbiansm but they or their children should not be jugde by man because our job is not to defend God but preach love period.
    If God hate them,let him strike them dead but not man acting like Telaban

    March 16, 2010 at 4:38 am | Report abuse |
  5. James

    And this from a religious institution that is rife on every hand with sex abuse scandal? Epitome of hypocrisy, if you ask me. What happened to "love one another", eh?

    March 16, 2010 at 4:41 am | Report abuse |
  6. Retired Catholic

    In other words, even though God loves lesbians, God still won't allow them (and their children) to conduct normal life in society unless the parents permanently subjugate their homosexual feelings, and one of them enters a heterosexual union of marriage and adopts the kids for herself. Whatever the law says, Jesus still taught otherwise and unless he sends a supernatural message to the contrary, these parents have no choice. Sounds like the usual crap from our oldest surviving bastion of religious and political power. Maybe we should ask the Pope how this can be resolved. Oh wait, the Pope's busy facing allegations of "turning the other cheek" on sexual abuse of male children by priests in his former diocese.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:42 am | Report abuse |
  7. Daryn Guarino

    The Archdiocese of Columbus Ohio has no problem tolerating lesbians at all levels, let alone as parents. There are a pair of lesbians running St. Vincent's Catholic Children's Center with the blessing of the Bishop. If he can tolerate lesbians, why can't Colorado do the same?

    March 16, 2010 at 4:43 am | Report abuse |
  8. Limekiller

    Oh, so they claim they're banning the kids because the parents aren't married? Do they ban all other unwed parents? Somehow, I don't think so, in which case they are lying their butts off.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:45 am | Report abuse |
  9. mia

    I support the decision by the church. By demanding another outcome, the antagonists are demanding that the church violate fundamental beliefs.
    Families can always find schools that welcome their kids.
    Religion is sacred, and deserves respect, even if you don't want to buy the package.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:48 am | Report abuse |
  10. cherokee

    How does one reconcile that with the diversity initiatives in American companies and American Government?

    March 16, 2010 at 4:48 am | Report abuse |
  11. Tiggertoy

    "These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness..."

    Unfortunately, it is the decision of Catholic Church that is causing much unhappiness in this child's life, not the Lesbian Couple.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:54 am | Report abuse |
  12. anniuebannie

    How can two people who live a life totally opposed the the official teaching of the Catholic Church claim to live as Catholics? They cannot. They are part of the ever geowin group of CINO Catholics== catholic in name only. They, and those like them, are the reason for all the problems in the Catholic Church today. These CINOs need to leave the church and become part of a church that thinks like they do. Let the real Catholics have their church back!

    March 16, 2010 at 4:55 am | Report abuse |
  13. Mrs. Davis

    This is just dispicable to punish children for the acts of their parents.

    March 16, 2010 at 4:57 am | Report abuse |
  14. Allen

    This is discrimination plain and simple. The Diocese used in their explanation for expultion of these children from the school as "sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong"....I bet if we hooked everyone of the other children's parents of that school to a polygraph and asked them if they've ever had sex outside marriage that school would be EMPTY!

    March 16, 2010 at 5:06 am | Report abuse |
  15. Edwin

    It is part of the catholic faith that marriage is between a man and a woman, being gay and lesbian is against the teachings in the Bible, catholic faith is based on the Bible,so I guess this lesbian couple choose what they want to follow and what hey don't want to follow based on what is convenient for them. I do not think they are catholic at all.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:11 am | Report abuse |
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