March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Eric

    How sad that the Archdiocese of Denver is using this couple's child as a weapon. Even if they believe that a lesbian couple are living in sin, why do they punish the child? Archbishop Chaput states they are concerned about the child's welfare. That is just meaningless rhetoric. The Archdiocese and Chaput are more concerned with making their viewpoint known than about the faith jorney of the student. What would Jesus do? Jesus would let the child attend school because God is open to all. The School previously accepted the child as a student, now they are turning him away. Good for the lesbian couple knowing that the Catholic faith is much bigger than one narrow minded church bureaucrat. May God bless the couple and their child.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:20 am | Report abuse |
  2. charles

    what about children who were the result of a planned birth, or, whose parents practice birth control? they're pretty suspicious too, i don't want them in MY church.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:26 am | Report abuse |
  3. crod

    Why must the children pay for the sins of their mothers? I say let the children go to the school and be educated with true Catholic beliefs (love and acceptance).

    March 16, 2010 at 5:29 am | Report abuse |
  4. Evelyn Micolichek

    What the heck does what the parents do, have anything to do with the education of a child. You would think they would want to influence the child in some ways. They know squat about raising a child. But they know a lot about same sex love. If you doubt me read the papers. And then they got the guts to condem the women. Maybe its because they do not like women. "You Think"!!!!!!

    March 16, 2010 at 5:29 am | Report abuse |
  5. Pat

    I'm sure the Archdiocese will prove they are not being hypocrites by expelling any and all students whose parents are unmarried or divorced, as well.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:30 am | Report abuse |
  6. msix

    It's a shame the Catholic church was not as quick to expel it's pedophile priests that parishioners entrusted their children to. It is unconscionable to expel these children, there are so many different options that could have been excercised and approaches to this situation.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:31 am | Report abuse |
  7. John

    This is just great!!!!!! With all the information of the Catholics and there sex abuse with little boys, they are worried about one child of a lesbian couple they should not through stones in a gless house.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:34 am | Report abuse |
  8. bgb808

    the church is free to do what it will, of course, and the couple are free to believe as their hearts direct them. all are, i suppose, free to kiss the hand that beats them, no matter how sad it is for others to watch.

    one hopes, though, that no unmarried mixed-sex couples, or remarried people, are sending their children to that school with the approval - or, at least, a blind eye turned - of the diocese. it would be terrible if the church were being in any way hypocritical...

    March 16, 2010 at 5:36 am | Report abuse |
  9. Ruth

    Re: Catholic Church expels children from school because of parents are lesbians.
    IThe Church should practice what they preach, and not cover up it's own sins!

    March 16, 2010 at 5:37 am | Report abuse |
  10. Justice for all

    Its funny how they want their faith revealed but not their names! Sounds like these lesbians have something to be ashamed about!

    March 16, 2010 at 5:42 am | Report abuse |
  11. Larry

    "sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong" Then I guess all the illegitimate children attending a catholic school better find a new one to attend!

    March 16, 2010 at 5:43 am | Report abuse |
  12. nancy

    First, I do not agree with the Catholic church's teaching that homosexuality is a sin, but let's agree that the Church has a right to enforce its rules, even if they fly in the face of Jesus's teaching of "Love one another as I have loved you."

    That said, will this church now make sure to expel students whose parents are in organized crime or drug dealing, who are unfaithful to their spouses, who abuse children (might lose some clergy on that one)...? Who will be left in the school?

    He who is without sin......

    March 16, 2010 at 5:46 am | Report abuse |
  13. Linda

    By the same bad logic, the school should kick out kids who have a parent who is unfaithful – also against church doctrine, yes? What about those parents who are divorce, and remarried. Catholics believe that once you marry, one can not remarry and stay in the church. Oh and what about those who take birth control? And obviously they should never accept a non-Catholic into the school, right? It's inconsistent, and just pure homophobia.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:49 am | Report abuse |
  14. Wes

    The Catholic church is simply wrong. And in expelling the children have broken faith with the teaching of Jesus. To love your neighbor as you love your self. The couple should find a home in another church, less judgmental and punitive to the innocent children.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:49 am | Report abuse |
  15. NAA KOSHIE

    I totally agree with the archbishop. the childred are not being punished because their parents are lesbians, but their parents are being taught that they are doing the wrong thing and the bible frowns on same-sex marriages. maybe if they change their minds the church will change towards them. if they want to be accepted, they have to embrace what the church teaches.

    March 16, 2010 at 5:50 am | Report abuse |
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