March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Carrie

    are they then going to expel the children of unmarried parents? single parents? divorced parents? wouldn't that be the same thing? this is why i do not believe in religion. because it is twisted to suit the needs of the few.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:37 am | Report abuse |
  2. Chris

    Why does the Catholic Church not apply the same yard stick to the behavior of their priests? The current scandal at the Vatican is a good example. It is called hypocrisy. We see case after case where the Catholic Church chooses to look the other way when it comes to sexual abuse by their priests. And, this my friend is not only against the teachings of the Catholic Church, it is against the lawin most modern western societies.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:38 am | Report abuse |
  3. UCgirl513

    Okay so if the archbishop claims this happened because the Church teaches that sexual relations outside of marriage is wrong why don't they start not allowing any parent with sexual relations outside of marriage to enroll their children...can we say double standards?

    March 16, 2010 at 6:38 am | Report abuse |
  4. Riiiiiight

    "But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong"

    Unless the sexual intimacy is between a pedophile priest and a 12 year old boy.....

    March 16, 2010 at 6:40 am | Report abuse |
  5. J. Martineau

    In reading this, if I were a member of the catholic church that was in a committed relationship but not married, I would be concerned about the risk to my children from the church.

    I hope the church re-views its position and sees how foolish their justification is, to blame the action on the fact that the parents are not married and are therefore committing a grievous sin in the eyes of the church would then expose all of its members to the same harsh scrutiny and go against the very belief that ultimate judgement lays with God and no one else.

    Additionally, if they continue to hold this position one can only hope that the church would review this decision agianst its policy of moving gay/pedophile priests from church to church instead doing the right thing and turning them over to police.

    This is just another example of why the Catholic church is one of the most corrupt, vial, and evil organizations to exist today.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:42 am | Report abuse |
  6. smp

    It is amazing that the some of the most judgmental and close minded people are the ones who proclaim to love Jesus.
    Jesus loved everyone, accepted everyone and embraced everyone!
    Yet some of his most obsessed followers can not see past the end of their own ignorant noses.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:43 am | Report abuse |
  7. Frank Sullivan

    Very interesting and ironic. These women use the Bible to rebuke a church! Do people REALLY think the Bible teaches that homosexuality is ok???? I realize mankind as a whole is much smarter and wiser and more open minded than God, but after all, mankind didn't create the universe and mans opinion can't hold a candle to God's wisdom.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:43 am | Report abuse |
  8. 22Tango

    This is the Church that is being accused of sexual abuse against children, correct? Across continents? Who are they to point a finger? And I hope they're going to kick all the DIVORCED heterosexual parents out of the school because Jesus spoke about divorce not homosexuality. This is discrimination, period.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:44 am | Report abuse |
  9. D Fletcher

    What about the sex abuse by all the priests. They are far worst than this.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:45 am | Report abuse |
  10. Chris

    Just saving the parents a lot of grief later on. Parents aught to find a more lib school, both them and their kids would feel more comforterable.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:45 am | Report abuse |
  11. Dawn

    Is the Catholic Church going to kick all the kids of divorced parents out of school too? How about the children of heterosexual couples who are not married?

    March 16, 2010 at 6:48 am | Report abuse |
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  12. Peter Vogel

    Just to be clear:
    It's not that the child is being excluded because the parents are lesbians.
    It's because the parents are indulging in sexual intimacy.
    Even that would be alright except that the parents are doing it outside of marriage.
    So, if the parents were just to marry, it would be alright.
    But the church won't marry them
    ....because they're lesbians.
    Were the parents heterosexual, they could be married and their intimacy would be acceptable; because the couple are lesbians the church refuses to marry them and their intimacy is not acceptable. Excluding the child is probably within the Church's rights under current law. But the hypocrisy of trying to simultaneously claim that "it's not because the parents are lesbians" while excluding the child because the parents are lesbians is maddening.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:52 am | Report abuse |
  13. Lilly

    Any church that divides decent people with their doctrines of how and who we love is wrong. The catholic church with their stance on planned parenthood, their stance on gay and lesbian issues, and their lack of insight when it comes to pedophiles in their own house, defies logic and reason. Talk about myopic.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:55 am | Report abuse |
  14. Rich Walsh

    How very christian of the archdiocese of Colorado to discriminate against the children. It's no wonder that catholics are leaving the catholic church.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:55 am | Report abuse |
  15. A Chavez

    This is why the Catholic Church has seen a decline, both in mass attendance and overall members. It chooses what parts of the bible to enforce; it keeps disgraced priests; it does what it suits it at present.
    This is not to start a discussion, however, where does it state in the bible that two women cannot raise a child.
    One last thing – the word homosexual did not appear until the 1800’s. How is it possible it’s part of the bible that was written ~ 2,000 years ago?

    March 16, 2010 at 6:55 am | Report abuse |
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