March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Dale

    Please point to chapert and verse where Jesus said anything about same sex marriage. I have found nothing in the Gospels where this is addressed.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:57 am | Report abuse |
  2. Bill

    Lesbians can't have sex outside of marriage and they are not allowed to be married. Therefore, the only moral thing to do is remain celibate. Is this reasonable? And what business is it of the Church how the parents conduct their personal lives? In any event, the children shouldn't be punished.

    March 16, 2010 at 6:59 am | Report abuse |
  3. Josh

    Good. this is how it should be. everything is too ok in the world. That is why we have morals declining everywhere, diseases, war, etc. Because nothing is wrong anymore. Everything is accepted. This should be applied in public schools as well. What the kids have already learned from watching TV with all these people parading around is irreparable,

    March 16, 2010 at 6:59 am | Report abuse |
  4. DesMoiner

    Unfortunately, most churches are essentially private clubs. They can and do discriminate against people that don't fit into their particular mold. As much as it pains me to admit this, I believe it is central to the tenet of Freedom of Religion that organizations maintain this right to select their members based on a common belief system. Seemingly unfair, if a particular couple doesn't subscribe to all of the Catholic faith's doctrine, are they really Catholics to begin with?

    March 16, 2010 at 7:04 am | Report abuse |
  5. writernd

    Never ceases to amaze the awfulness done in the name of he who was full of goodness (Jesus) or the hateful words being put into his mouth. But what is also astonishing is the couple's decision to remain "Catholic." beinng gay, accepting yourself as gay and living as God made you are all contrary to today's Catholic teaching. It is simply not the same as using condoms (which the church also was against, at least when I was Catholic). Why would you want to teach your child that "who you are" is a sin? There are organized religions that do not espouse such hate. Catholicism is not one of them. My advice. Run from that school and count your blessings that your child is no longer there.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:07 am | Report abuse |
  6. David Nicholson

    I don't know which is sadder, the standard hatred of homosexuals by the church (and it is hatred, no matter how hard they try to dress it up as something else) or people so desperate to be part of a belief system that they cling to it no matter what. There is little difference between this and a battered woman who repeatedly goes back to her abusive husband.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:07 am | Report abuse |
  7. Madashell

    Covering up pedophile priests; kicking out priests for infidelity but not molesting childres; from this moral high ground the kick out baptised children by loveing parents trying to raise their children under god. Shame on the Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado

    March 16, 2010 at 7:08 am | Report abuse |
  8. LC

    What a shame for the Archbishop and his congregation to hide behind God to serve their own beliefs. I find this one of the most disturbing situations I have read in many years. It's a good thing God is forgiving. These people who made this decision need forgivness as much as anyone I have ever heard of.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:08 am | Report abuse |
  9. Brian from Washington

    Excuse me, but isn't the Catholic Church a tax exempt corporation? That's right, it's subsidized by U.S. taxpayers. If this couple has been discriminated against then they should have lawyers question their tax exempt status. U.S. taxpayers should not be paying for discrimination.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:11 am | Report abuse |
  10. Obunike

    Sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; Marriage is a sacramental covenant that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. But punishing Kids for parents acts should be reconsidered, we are in the time of grace.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:12 am | Report abuse |
  11. Bob

    "The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

    Exactly......We are not the authors.....just the mail carriers.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:13 am | Report abuse |
  12. David P

    "they are the teachings of Jesus Christ" REALLY? Please quote the verse where Jesus speaks of homosexuality.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:17 am | Report abuse |
  13. Tim

    And this is why so few attend church anymore or believe in the church anymore. If you don't condone the fact that this couple live in a monogomous, loving relationship and are raising their kids by the same rules that other Catholics follow then shame on you! It's not like this couple have done anything wrong. They have not hurt anyone, they have not stolen from anyone. Hell, for that matter they haven't broken any of the so called 10 commandments but yet they are being ostracized! Ridiculous!
    This is why I may be a Catholic but I am not a practicing Catholic. You would think they have more to worry about with priests molesting little kids and such than to worry about the kids of a Lesbian relationship and taking away an education for these kids.
    Very sad!

    March 16, 2010 at 7:17 am | Report abuse |
  14. Okechukwu Oboh

    I am a Catholic and the rest of my family (wife and children) are Catholics and we will always be Catholics, but I totally disagree with the Archdiocese of Denver on this expulsion. We must not visit the sins of the parents on their children. Education is a fundamental right therefore expelling these children from School is tantamount to taking their rights from them. The Mother Church in simple words must explain to us what moral harm these kids will have on other kids in their school to warrant dismissal. Unless this is done it will be a moral sin greater than living in sin as unmarried partners for the Archdiocese to expel the children from School because of their "parents'" sexual orientation.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:21 am | Report abuse |
  15. Kenneth

    well its said that a catholic shool would punish kids for parents action
    id nessary ban the parents from being appart of the school. and let god take the ordeal o fthe partensts being lesbian..



    May god bless that troubled school, for the ignorant admin. know not wjhat they do !!

    March 16, 2010 at 7:24 am | Report abuse |
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