March 16th, 2010
02:23 AM ET

Lesbian parents of expelled kids defend their Catholic faith

A lesbian couple whose children were expelled from a Catholic school in Boulder, Colorado, expressed their dismay Monday, but held steadfast to their faith.

In a written statement, the women, who chose not to reveal their identities, described themselves as normal, hard-working people with a nice house and a dog - and as Catholics.

"When we were allowed to have our children baptized ... we made a promise
to raise our children in the Catholic faith," they said. "We now feel like our attempts at fulfilling this promise are being undermined by the Church itself.

"Perhaps our biggest objection to the school's decision is that we think that it is wrong to punish a child for who the child's parents are. We do not think that this reflects what Jesus would have done."

The Archdiocese of Denver, Colorado, recently defended its decision not to re-enroll the couple's two children in the Sacred Heart of Jesus School next year because their parents are lesbians.

"The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are 'bad,' or that their children are less loved by God," Archbishop Charles J. Chaput wrote in an article published in the Denver Catholic Register.

"Quite the opposite. But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ."

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  1. Victoria Moreland

    Homosexuality is a sin. The Roman Catholic churc denounces and repells it. If these people want to live a perverted lifestyle, they have no right whatsoever to impose it on the rest of us. There are plenty of secular schools out there to accomodate their needs. Stop asking for what you don't deserve. I feel sorry for these poor kids.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:27 am | Report abuse |
  2. Frank

    Jesus also taught that we should not judge others lest we be so judged and that children are his. I think that Jesus would have worked to help them – not expel them, and certainly not the children. This is a matter of convenience for the school/church but the reality is that it is a modern issue we must each deal with. Being gay doesn't make someone bad and I'm really tired of hearing about the preferences of two consenting adults no matter who they are. I'd rather keep an eye on real news, for example, our politicians, economy and what the DC bozos are up to next.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:28 am | Report abuse |
  3. Fred

    What did they expect?? These people expect people to conform to their lifestyle and that's just wrong.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:29 am | Report abuse |
  4. gister

    Homosexuality and the church shouldnt be a controversial issue, but unfortunately it has..the bible is against homosexuality, God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of their sins, chief of which was homosexuality...If you want to be gay, then get out of the church, you cannot serve two masters. Its a pity that their children are being part of these, but i stand with the church...marriage should be between man and woman, and children come from the union of a man and a woman...

    March 16, 2010 at 7:30 am | Report abuse |
  5. Nicole

    In a world so filled with war and hate it saddens me that anyone would be condemned or punished for loving another person, male or female.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:31 am | Report abuse |
  6. Christian

    None of the three monotheistic faiths of the world condone homosexual activity, including Christianity.

    Unlike our federal government, the Holy Bible does not provide provide special rights for people who go against God's word. The Word is very clear in both the Old Testament and New Testament that homosexual activity, not the people, is not acceptable in God's plan. Therefore, it is not surprising that the Church does what it can to stay within His covenant. The Church is right to do what it can to guide the congregation and its church school students toward being Christians in good standing because its authority comes from the Bible and not the laws of governments.

    Ultimately, the children are not harmed because a public school education with all the rights guaranteed by the government is still available to them. There may be other private school options available to them as well.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:32 am | Report abuse |
  7. Peter

    The catholic church is justifiably dieing a slow death. Raised catholic I am well aware of their need to control and abuse. These aren't the teachings of Jesus Christ ... it's the interpretation of a male dominated church that has used the 'word' of God to control men and women for centuries. Christ would not have hurt these children as the catholic church has done.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:32 am | Report abuse |
  8. Marco Solo

    Of course that church doesn't discriminate against the divorced or the adulterous, just the gays.... that is bigotry and hypocrisy no matter how you look at it. Hiding your prejudice behind Jesus, apparently that is the Christian way for many modern Christians... Somehow I don't think Jesus would approve.....

    March 16, 2010 at 7:32 am | Report abuse |
  9. fearlesswriter

    Defending the Catholic faith includes recognizing Catholic teaching. The Catechism is clear; the Church should not shy away from any of Jesus' teaching, and it would be unfair for the student to be included in Catholic eduaction because we believe homosexuality to be against the Lord (something these two should be aware of as Catholics). As actively practicing homosexuals, it would be improper for them to enroll their child in an education which actively rejects their lifestyle.

    PS. Defending the Catholic faith includes striving for unity, respect, and faithfulness to God between all aspects of the Church. The opening of a private matter such as the enrollment of a child in Catholic education, to public knowledge, makes a profession of "defending" Catholicism dubious.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:32 am | Report abuse |
  10. CM

    So because the church is unhappy with two women having a loving, committed relationship to each other, they take it out on the kids? Look, it's their religion and if they want to preach anything as stupid as not allowing two loving, consenting adults to be in a relationship that's their right. Even based on that, I just don't see any logical reason for their decision.

    If anything, the church just missed an opportunity to educate these children in the church teachings as they get their education. Apparently the 'wisdom' of the 'almighty-God' doesn't always make its way down to the clergy. I believe the church has just guaranteed another couple of kids will NOT be catholic when they grow up. Besides having two loving parents, this is probably one of the best things that could happen to them.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:32 am | Report abuse |
  11. spaz

    Not trying to judge the catholic faith here however I was brought up catholic and was cussed out in a confessional chamber. Needless to say when I was to be married a decade later the monsignor would not marry me unless I went to confession and I told him my reason why. I felt it not necessary to talk to a priest of my sins when I could speak to the lord directly and he called me a hippocrate and told me I really dont believe in JESUS. Being the wedding was days away I did as he wanted however have never stepped foot again in the catholic church. To me they were not being christianlike by judging my faith. In my opinion it is wrong to choose a person sexually of the same sex. It does also state in the bible this is a form of perversion. However it is not christianlike to persecute the children from going to this school. They are innocent children of GOD.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:35 am | Report abuse |
  12. Mame

    Wow, the church does not believe in sex outside marriage? What about all the priests who have sexually abused children for centuries? Talk about hypcrites.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:36 am | Report abuse |
  13. Brice B

    Hogwash. Are they going to expel – by that I mean "not re-enroll" in the words of the diocese – the children of each and every set of parents that aren't married, or the children of single parents who are dating or being intimate out of wedlock?

    Of course they'er not, and you're deluding yourself if you think they are willing to be that consistent with the church's teachings. This is a blatant attack on alternative lifestyles and one more example of what happens when you trust your religion to others. Have faith in your god, not the people who bring it to you.

    FWIW – I'm straight and athiestic, so yes, I'm probably biased.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:36 am | Report abuse |
  14. Sara

    As a divorced and now remarried woman Catholic I am also not able to go up to communion, because of the beliefs of the church. It is how it is.... their relationship is not accepted by the church and if their faith is so strong in Jesus and they don't accept the fact that their relationship is wrong, then maybe they need to decide what church accepts all aspects of their lives... obviously, their religious beliefs are not as strong as they claim they are.. as they are going against God's and their Catholic Faith..... Maybe they should reconsider where they go to church...

    March 16, 2010 at 7:39 am | Report abuse |
  15. M

    Once again, the main problem with homosexuals (from a Biblical standpoint) is their belief that they can retain their behavior while demanding acceptance from God and man. The Bible teaches that one must repent from one's sins and stop sinning.

    There is no speech or argument grand enough or logical enough to overcome the above barrier.

    March 16, 2010 at 7:43 am | Report abuse |
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