Overheard on CNN.com: No dad-bashing on Father's Day!
June 17th, 2011
05:22 PM ET

Overheard on CNN.com: No dad-bashing on Father's Day!

Comment of the Day:

"Funny, my Father's Day wish is to go the hell back to sleep when I wake the hell up that morning. Here's hoping I get my wish, because I'm usually waking the hell up and helping the kids with their breakfast, cleaning the hell out of the kitchen, vacuuming the hell out of the house and then sometime in the late afternoon drinking a hell of a beer."–BeerBrewerDa

A Father's Day wish: Dads, wake the hell up!

Stay-at-hom dad Jeff Pearlman gave some tips on enjoying the kids and helping around the house and apparently hit a nerve. Many CNN.com readers were furious at what they saw as being lectured right before Father's Day.

NewsEditor said, "As a father of two wonderful kids, I find this article completely insulting and about 30 years too late. Fathers today are involved with their kids’ lives more than ever before, despite the outdated and totally unfair custody laws that still exist in most states. I'll be making my kids' dinner and doing their laundry tonight, but it will be because I always do and not because my wife has to nag me about it, just like most men of my generation I know."

sensiblem said, "On Mother's Day, women get long flowery prose about how mothers are the sole reason for their kids' success. On Father's Day, men get berated for not being better parents. Yes, I get that there are a lot of people out there who grew up with distant or absent fathers. My father wasn't really around either. But as someone who is involved in his kids' lives, is it really too much to ask for people to lay off the 'deadbeat dad' stereotype and actually, ya know, appreciate fathers on Father's Day?"

mediaisajoke said, "This article is both pompous and presumptuous, and would have been better received had it not been written like a laundry list of chores left on the refrigerator by the wife. Also, a recent CNN article shows that more than 50% of modern males do more than their fair share in raising children, despite long workdays and household chores that need to be done. Every guy I know is a devoted dad who bends over backwards for his kids. Yes, I am a little riled up over this article; extrapolate from that what you will."

BeerBrewerDa asked, "Would it be so bad for us to get breakfast in bed or taken out to brunch? Mother's Day is all about flowery prose, as you say, and all of the enjoyable trappings that go along with that. How about throwing some of that our way? I wouldn't mind a card that says how awesome I am, as opposed to another one about farts and beer."

Saggy pants lead to passenger's arrest

Deshon Marman was returning home from a funeral when he boarded a US Airways Flight wearing saggy pants that showed his underwear. He refused to pull them up when asked by US Airways employees and was arrested by the captain for trespassing when he refused to leave the plane. Most CNN.com readers said Marman should have pulled up his pants.

MCHammBohn said, "We can debate if the captain should have ordered him off the plane in the first place. That's a reasonable debate. However, once the captain did issue the order, the passenger is legally obligated to comply. He didn't. That's criminal. Just because they don't tell you exactly what to wear does not mean they do not have a policy."

Statesman15 said, "If authority tells you to pull up your pants, pull them up. This kid is supposed to be a role model in college, too. I just shake my head at this, because every time I walk around in this country I get stereotyped due to actions like this bozo's!"

AUColdSteel said, "They should have just yanked his pants all the way down. I bet he pulls them up then." wackman asked, "Why do people insist on following a practice that started with prison prostitutes?"

oddbanng said, "Kudos to the airlines for sticking to common sense. It's no different than when you walk off the street into a fine restaurant that clearly states 'Appropriate Attire Required.' In this case, no pants, no fly. 🙂

Many said Marman's state of undress was unfair to other passengers. nepawoods said, "The airplane itself is cramped for space. You want this guy's boxer shorts in your face as he tries to squeeze by you to use the restroom?"

Some said, however, that the airline’s dress code was unclear and unfairly enforced. edandnanette said, "Were he a she and good-looking, I have my doubts anyone would have cared." cryspyx said, "I don't approve of showing your undies (it's as classy as the chicks who show their thongs in low-rider jeans), but double standards apply across the boards."

Diskullman said, "Looking like a fool with your pants on the ground. OK, this style doesn't appeal to me, but I would assume his pants being so low probably eased his search before boarding. I believe his civil rights were violated."

Picco said, "Funny thing is that his attire was deemed appropriate from the time he checked-in, went through security, showed his boarding pass at the gate, and walked downthe  jet bridge. The larger issue may be that the policy is not clearly offered anywhere and inconsistently applied, at the whim of a flight attendant."

Casey Anthony's trial is a summer obsession

What is it about the Casey Anthony case that has made it such a national obsession? asks writer Ann O'Neill. ComeOnMan9 said, "I am obsessed with this thing. I dream of the day when they fit this fine, upstanding woman with her very own designer prison ensemble: my kind of haute couture."

jmg162636 asked, "Who cares? Why is this case relevant? Why is this psychopath becoming a celebrity? Why can I not watch the news for 10 minutes without a trial update? Mothers kill their children all too regularly; I don’t need to hear about their irrelevant trials." AHonaker99 asked, “When is this going to end? Why is she not dead yet? I am bored out of my mind with this story. It's been a bad summer for news: Weiner or Anthony.”

Other readers had plenty to say about Nancy Grace. zaglossus said, "An interesting criminal case but it has diverted attention from other criminal cases and coverage of substantive news from Washington, Wall Street and overseas. As for Nancy Grace, it's always guilty until proven innocent: the lynch mob incarnate."

But WowMe said, "I love Nancy Grace. People need to understand that she is a commentator, not a news reporter. Yes, her show is based on her opinion of the case, hence the name of the show." 643DP said, "If it wasn't for her show, I wouldn't have been following this story for the last three years. She can be annoying but I think she just appreciates justice being done."

But FiletORich said, "I wish that Casey had left her baby alone and duct-taped Nancy Grace's mouth shut and dumped her in the woods instead."

Do you feel your views align with these commenters' thoughts? Post a comment below or sound off on video.

Compiled by the CNN.com moderation staff. Some comments edited for length or clarity.

soundoff (43 Responses)
  1. leeintulsa

    I just realized i wrote about family being there in the past tense. My sister is dropping my daughter off in about 10 minutes. She volunteers with sis once a month at a no-kill animal shelter.

    June 18, 2011 at 6:53 pm | Report abuse |
  2. chrissy

    hey to all my long lost peeps have missed talking with u all sooo much...even the gloomy gus ones, and u no who u all are lol. on a good note my girls wished me a happy dads day since i was both. and that ever happened to my bud phillip? hi raven, banasy

    June 19, 2011 at 12:36 am | Report abuse |
  3. chrissy

    & as for the article it was degrading! & who needs cnn 2 tell u not 2 dad bash? as a human being u should just know not 2! u got 2 treat others how u wish 2 be treated. & truth be known theres some pretty awful moms out there too. so u dads enjoy ur day!

    June 19, 2011 at 12:44 am | Report abuse |
  4. chrissy

    and mmmm u sure u aint my brother? lol how many sisters do u have?

    June 19, 2011 at 12:49 am | Report abuse |
  5. Susan

    This article is so true its not funny

    June 19, 2011 at 10:35 am | Report abuse |
  6. banasy


    You, also, epitomize what a true Father is.
    You are truly a fabulous Dad!
    If you read this, know that you have my admiration.


    I am glad you didn't kill your father; the world would be a more unappealing place for me if I had never gotten to know you.
    You are better than that, for which I am grateful.

    Cheers, Pal Joey!

    June 19, 2011 at 3:48 pm | Report abuse |
  7. Sam

    Thank you. Not all of us dads are deadbeats. In fact, the article really struck a nerve with me because right now according to Jeff Pearlman I am a deadbeat because I am currently in Afghanistan and not with my kids. Funny, even my kids understand that, and they are pretty young. Although I'm quite certain Jeff Pearlman did not mean to call out the 100,000+ deployed military members, many of whom have kids back at home, it really started my Father's Day off even more depressed than simply feeling bad for not having my #1 wish on Fathers Day or any day...being with my family.

    June 21, 2011 at 2:08 pm | Report abuse |
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